Do You Feel Regularly Irritated By Something?

Is there something that bugs you in your life? Something that repetitively bothers you? Something that really gets on your nerves?

If it is something that has happened more than once then I challenge you to consider what you can do about it. It seems crazy to me to keep experiencing something that irritates you, if you can do something to change it. If you keep doing the same you will get more of the same.

Is this thing you don't like within your control? If so, consider where in the situation are you giving away your own power or choices? Where can you reclaim some power? We have so many more choices available to us than we think we do. What options have you not yet considered? What have you already considered but not yet chosen to action?

If this thing that irritates you feels outside of your control, then consider again where in the equation does your power begin and end? Where in the situation do you have choices? Really consider this. Often we say we can't do anything about something we don't like, not because we are unable to, but because we don't want to experience the perceived consequences of taking those actions or making those changes.

If what habitually bothers you is something that is truly outside of your control (such as someone else's behaviour), or you do not want to face the potential consequences of the changes you feel you would have to make in order to take control of the situation, then the only option left, as far as I see it, is to change how you think and feel about it. To change your mindset instead.

You can choose to change how you see this thing. To let go of negative thinking associated with it. I did this myself when I lived somewhere that I didn't really want to be living. At the time I did not feel that I had many choices available to me to create an immediate change, and I did not want the consequences that I imagined from forcing it to change there and then, so instead I decided to change my mindset. I chose the affirmation 'I am happy and grateful to live here' and I said it to myself repeatedly, every time I arrived and left the building, until I reached a point where that thought automatically popped into my head every time I came and went.

So it worked to change my mindset and helped me to feel happier living in that environment. An important point to note here however is that when I finally did move on, I felt such an overwhelming rush of relief. I felt as if a giant weight had been lifted. So I did successfully condition myself to have a more positive mindset to help me better manage a circumstance I was not happy with, however ultimately my mind/body knew that the right thing for me was to move on.

Sometimes though you can change your mindset by just shifting the position that you look at it from. So taking a side-step and choosing an alternative, more positive perspective. This is less conditioning and more broadening your view points on the topic so that you have more choices about how you look at something to consciously choose from, rather than automatically sticking to the auto-negative viewpoint that may be in place at the moment.

So, if you are not happy with something that happens over and over in your life, and there are steps you can take to improve the situation, take them! Don't expect or leave it to another party to sort it out for you. It may not be a priority for them.

I think life is too short to put up with niggles, especially if there is something you can do about it. I believe that we all deserve to feel happy in our lives. If any of this rings true for you, consider your options and step up to take more control to enable greater happiness in your life!

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Hazel

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