How To Design a Life You Love – Part 1
I have been exploring the concept of designing a life you love for a quite some time now and I find it a fascinating topic. I first got seriously interested in this after I had a massive life change when my long term relationship ended and life as I knew it fell to pieces. Everything changed due to factors outside of my control. It was then that I decided that if I was going to have to rebuild then I may as well design a life I truly love and make it amazing.
The first key element of designing a life you love is actually letting yourself do it. Giving yourself permission to embark upon this exploration and creation phase. Allowing yourself to take the first steps forward and indulge in playing with the ideas around what you want. What you really want.
This can be quite affronting, to stand up and say to yourself 'I'm going to consider what I really want from now on.' It means potentially facing change. Change, big or small, even just thinking about it, can activate fear inside you. Fear is the tool used by the part of you that thinks that any change is just too risky to your safety, and so will do whatever it takes to talk you out of even considering it. Once that kicks in you are bombarded with all the reasons to stay the same. And that is an absolutely fine thing to do.
However, if you are not as happy or fulfilled or as satisfied in life as you would like to be, then standing up to the fears and choosing to design and build a life you love might be just the thing for you. When you ultimately have a deep knowing that what you really want to do is the right thing for you, you need to be courageous and proceed despite fear.
Another thing that commonly gets in the way of allowing us to have a life we love is our level of self worth. This is how much you value yourself. If your self worth is low then you won't feel like you deserve or are worthy of living a life you love. If this is the case for you, then you will need to work on this first. A great author on the topic is Louise Hay - check out her teachings here: www.louisehay.com. Also see my blog post on self care to generate some ideas for yourself: 'Put Your Own Oxygen Mask On First'.
If you are interested in designing a life you love and would welcome some support to do it, I run an online programme called Design a Life You Love Programme, as well as offering 1-1 coaching. It is currently not open for participants however if you sign up to my newsletter you will be the first to know when it opens again. You can sign up to receive my newsletter here.
Wishing you much love,