Why saying yes to being a bridesmaid was a big deal for my confidence…
I got to be a bridesmaid recently at a good friend’s wedding!
Deep down I think I had always secretly wanted to experience what it was like to be a bridesmaid but had never had the opportunity before.
To be honest, I think I had always wanted to be close enough to someone to be considered for this and so I was thrilled to be asked to be part of my friend’s special day.
Upon reflection, I don’t think that I would have been as happy about it when I was younger.
And it would have triggered the phobia I experience - cleithrophobia, which is the fear of being trapped. It would have manifested as fear of being trapped in the situation for the day and would have resulted in lots of overthinking in advance.
When I was preparing for being a bridesmaid I experienced mild shadows of these things, but nothing like what I would have felt in years past.
When I trained in the Energy Alignment Method, I did so much energy work on myself in the years following that my experience of life completely changed as I got to process and let go of a lot of those limiting and uncomfortable things that I had carried around for years.
My default setting shifted from being predominantly anxiety and worry influenced, to gaining a significantly deeper-rooted sense of self-worth and confidence within myself to be able to trust that I could handle just about any situation that I face.
Overcoming anxiety and growing in confidence was not an overnight fix
As the resistent energy, thoughts and beliefs were removed from my system there was room for my confidence to grow.
I can’t say that I am now 100% confident about all things or that I don’t ever experience fear or anxiety, or the phobia doesn’t show up sometimes…
BUT… I experience them significantly less now and when they do come up, I can quickly shift it.
I just see them for what they are – layers of unhelpful inner programming that are surfacing ready to be changed into something more empowering.
Inner work… Energy work… It is a lifestyle. Not a one off
To grow in inner confidence, it takes being proactive and willing show up to do the work as and when it is required on each layer as it surfaces.
It is about being non-judgemental about where you are at with things and about knowing that each step forward is valuable no matter how small.
I have a much better relationship with myself now. Which in turn enables me to have better relationships with those who are important to me. And it enables me to step into each area of my life and work in a much more happy and confident way.
Like getting to be a bridesmaid! Thanks to doing the inner work, I got to say yes to this wonderful experience that I hugely valued and will never forget!
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